Hello, fog and cold mornings.
Hello, socks and the occasional sweater.
Hello, strangers looking just so darned American, with your culturally identifiable bodies, hair and clothes.
We are slowly getting over our jetlag and becoming re-acclimated to the routine of our quiet lives. Otis has been happily reacquainting himself with all his toys, and continuing to jibber on in Chinese all day long. His language skills grew impressively during our Asian sojourn, and Chinese has become totally natural to him. So natural that he seems to speak English with a Chinese accent. In fact, coming back here has affirmed what I have been suspecting for some time now: Otis has forgotten most of his English. Weird, isn’t it?
The vastly improved Chinese is fantastic, really just what we had been hoping for, but…… of course there’s a BUT! BUT I think Otis is feeling a little stunned. He’s grown suddenly shy around strangers who approach him speaking English. And more importantly, he’s been having trouble communicating with F. The morning of their reunion, he was so happy to see F, jumping on him, giggling and jabbering on and on. But he started to pause more as he realized that his father couldn’t understand what he was saying. And he had to pause to listen to this strange language that his father was speaking to him. A few days later, he seems to understand most of what F is saying to him, but he just can’t respond yet. I know he’ll regain his English (and yipes, lose his Chinese) faster than we think, but it’s been a frustrating reunion for both father and son.
Otis has been suffering from his usual post-homecoming sleep issues, and we’ve been working on getting him back to his reliable old sleep habits. Actually, F’s been doing much of the heavy lifting in this department, since my stiffly frozen heart seems to have defrosted somewhat since the initial hardcore sleep training we did oh so long ago. And although not understanding Chinese may make it somewhat easier for F to ignore Otis’s endless requests in order to put off sleeptime, it’s also been extremely frustrating for him to realize that he could have reduced much of the crying by merely understanding Otis’s demand for his stuffed tiger.
Soon soon soon, I know.
I know I owe many of you emails and phone calls (those of you that make your presence known, that is. I keep discovering the identity of more and more of secret readers out there. You know, you can’t hide forever!) and of course, I owe ALL of you collages. I know! What are you, monsters? My child has LOST the ability to speak the English language and all you can think about is paper, glue and scissors?
Well, actually, all I can think about is the very exciting fact that this week and next, we are installing our exciting little prefab studio in the backyard! I came home to see a backyard totally cleared of weedy jungle and debris, ready for landscaping. I’ve been dreaming about this forever, and ALL I can think about is patios, garden design, outdoor furniture and how to decorate my studio. Check out this craziness that I’m going to buy next time I find a $4120 bill on the street. Now imagine it tucked under the gracefully drooping branches of mature fruit trees. OK, now imagine me napping in there. Perfect, no? I’ll keep you updated, of course.

07.20.07 at 6.47 am
Welcome home!
07.20.07 at 8.09 am
Welcome back!? Frankly, I have not missed you too much because you were doing a GREAT job posting from Taiwan and wherever you were. You made me laugh real hard reading about Otis and his Chinese language. Give him a hug for me!
07.20.07 at 8.19 am
Oh, poor little Otis. I’ve spent extended trips overseas and I know what it’s like to come home-exciting and scary at the sametime! He’ll bounce back in no time (and hopefully he’ll keep his Chinese, what a gift!)
07.20.07 at 8.25 am
I don’t really have anything constructive to add or advice to give, it seems like one of those it sucks right now but it will pass so we just have to wait it out kind of situations, which, well, frankly always suck anyway. You’d think knowing that it will end sometime soon might make the present easier to bear, but it doesn’t really…at least not for me.
Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for talking about raising a hapa kid. There are probably all sorts of communities on the internets about it, I haven’t looked at all, but my boyfriend is white (I’m ethnically Chinese) so it’s something I think about and ponder sometimes. Especially the language stuff, I went to Chinese school back in the day but am not nearly proficient enough to be able to teach a child on my own.
07.20.07 at 8.56 am
Welcome back, and can’t wait to see you!
07.20.07 at 9.54 am
You must have that chair. I must get a backyard and then buy that chair. Glad you guys are back. Let’s get the kiddies together soon once your jet lag eases.
07.20.07 at 11.54 am
Welcome back! Hope the re adjusting doesn’t take too long, I can imagine it might be difficult for you all.
Would love to hear abour you sleep training when you have a moment – we need some tips!
07.20.07 at 12.43 pm
That’s so interesting about Otis’s language switch. How long were you over there? Did you speak English with him at all while you were there? Milo starts Chinese school this September (hopefully), and I volunteered to be a “classroom helper” so I can surreptitiously try to learn some Mandarin myself.
07.21.07 at 9.08 pm
Welcome home! Poor little Otis. I speak only English (and even that not very well), but I’m always kind of stunned into silence whenever I return home after an extended vacation in any non-English speaking part of the world. I forget that I can understand the commercials, that I am capable of comprehending what the people in the cafe are saying. Transitions are hard! But I’m sure O. will be jabbering away in his No Cal accented English in no time.
07.22.07 at 11.12 am
Otis can come teach D some chinese any time…. welcome home.
07.23.07 at 8.14 pm
How boo how? That’s about the extent of my Chinese. Poor Otis and the jet lag and language-confusion. I’m sure he’ll be back to his usual bi-lingual self in no time.
I have duvet-envy by the way. I went to the Dwell sample sale last year and saw someone pick up the very last one in that style. I subtly followed her around in case she put it down but she never did. At least I scored some $10 baby pillows and crib sheets. Poor H will now be in the crib until he’s 18 :)
07.24.07 at 9.35 am
Yes, welcome home.
07.24.07 at 2.22 pm
I am sure that Otis will recover his English eventually! It must be a little confusing for him at the moment though!! It’s great that his Chinese has improved though and soon he will be able to process in both languages – which is really just the best start any child could have – to be bilingual!!
07.30.07 at 3.42 pm
welcome home! and, if you find that $4120 bill, i would love to know on what street you were walking.